One such friendship is of the limited engagement kind. I’m not referring to a seasonal friendship – here for the summer, gone come fall. Limited engagements aren’t created out of necessity because of a factor like proximity. These types of friendships occur because one person in it always has an excuse prepared. You invite her to see a movie, go to dinner or a club, but she’s quick to turn down all of your offers. Her reasoning? She’s short on cash, doesn’t have anyone to watch her child, doesn’t have the time, or fill in the blank. These are all very valid excuses that are easy to understand and relate to. Heck, you’ve been there yourself. The problem occurs when this kind of friend always give you an excuse, no matter what. You offer solutions – “Don’t worry, my treat.” Or, “How about we just have a girl’s night at my place or yours?” You are all kinds of flexible and accommodating, but they don’t budge and turn you down frequently. Getting this friend to hang out with you is like pulling teeth.
June 16, 2015 ‐ By Nneka Samuel